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Who can I call to get my child away from his unfit father during his summer visitation?

February 14th, 2012 Leave a comment Go to comments

I live in Alabama. We had a long drawn-out divorce because he fought for custody until the judge was about to hear the case and then he settled for "shared" custody with me being the primary custodian. He never pays child support even though it is written in the papers that he pays it directly to me. But that’s not what I’m concerned about right now.

This past Sunday morning when I woke up I saw a call from there at 2:15 am with no voicemail and I called. My son is 10 now and his father called me back and told me that he woke him up to tell him he was going to some man’s house to try to calm down a fight between him and his girlfriend (he’s 53 and she is 24 with 5 small children).

She ended up going to jail and the man that called the police on her gave my ex husband the money to get a bail bondsman and get her out. Although I already told him that I did not want her around my son he bailed her out and was going to let her stay with him until the court date and now she has skipped on him. Her and my ex-husband have also been in many drunken fights around my son and her children where dishes were smashed, house torn up and hitting each other and the police were called to his home too. I also found out that he got yet another DUI arrest recently and has lost his driver’s license for 5 years and found out from a county sheriff that since our divorce, he has a sexual abuse charge also on his record plus 2 public intoxications and possession of marijuana which in that case he had to spend time in jail on the weekends.

I do not have any money for an attorney because I am barely making ends meat as it is keeping up my rent and bills and gas money to get to work and it seems like that is the only way that I can get any help. My divorce attorney kept delaying stuff and that ended up costing me $15k with help from my father who passed away 6 years ago. I have tried Department of Human Resources about the child support many years ago and my paperwork just kept getting lost because they change case workers without letting you know and the last I heard from them they wanted a picture of him. I don’t have a picture of him so I just gave up on that.

I am supposed to get my son tomorrow for my weekend visitation and he told me I cannot have him until school starts and to stay off his property. I do not want to go over there and get into an argument or even more a brawl. Since this young woman left him, he’s been trying to get me back again and when I brushed him off and told him that I was dating someone he has been really hateful again to me.

I just do not think it’s safe to have a child there and not even be able to drive because of his license being revoked and having volatile relationships around children and I feel so terrible because I told my son to call me anytime if they ever left him alone and/or he was scared and I would come and get him but I did not hear the phone. Since then I put an extra loud ringtone for his number but does anybody have any suggestions of what I can do about this without spending a fortune that I do not have on an attorney?

Your question can only be answered by a court judge. It is only its ruling done in papers where you can show it to that person taking care of your son. Well, be your own counsel as a PRO-SE. the law servers are there to assist you to a reasonable cause that is what your issue is all about. Be sure to bring some positive documents that will make your case easier for the judge to base its decision. In your case take a public transportation to avoid being reprimanded of your driving violations record.

  1. FozzieBear
    February 14th, 2012 at 05:42 | #1

    If he’s not paying the child support he owes you, that’s probably enough to get your kid away from him.

    However, just to be safe, file a report with the courts about what you’ve said here. If it’s true, they will not make you send your boy to live with his father.

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  2. Tiaskela
    February 14th, 2012 at 06:17 | #2

    Alabama huh? lol, this sounds so very redneck.

    Do a web search for Alabama domestic abuse assistance, and another for Alabama free legal help. If you still need a picture of him use your phone’s camera. I think I would also try calling the police non-emergency line, telling them you are going to your ex’s house to get your son as is agreed to by the custody order, and then just go get your son. You have the legal upper hand there, so if he calls the police, that’s good for you.
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  3. Rosalinda
    February 14th, 2012 at 06:51 | #3

    Your question can only be answered by a court judge. It is only its ruling done in papers where you can show it to that person taking care of your son. Well, be your own counsel as a PRO-SE. the law servers are there to assist you to a reasonable cause that is what your issue is all about. Be sure to bring some positive documents that will make your case easier for the judge to base its decision. In your case take a public transportation to avoid being reprimanded of your driving violations record.
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    some of my own experiences in self-representing in court where the judge saw justice in my favor. Most plaintiffs won its cases because it is compared to a soldier not to go to battle without ammunitions(guns) to fight. It is said "Government is not reason–it is not eloquence! It is a force! Like fire, it is a good servant and a fearful master. Never for a moment be left it to irresponsible action"!

  4. SouthernRose
    February 14th, 2012 at 07:20 | #4

    If you are suppose to get him tomorrow and he will not give him to you, go and file the papers your self for contempt, and for the child support also (clerks office will give you the forms). Also if you know this sheriff personally, get him to go with you to get him. I bet he lets you get him if you do that. Once you get him back, go and file emergency custody based on what you have posted here. In some counties in Alabama, the court will appoint you legal counsel if you meet income requirements for a custody hearing. They will also appoint a guardian ad litem for your son. Also try CPS again being he left a 10 year old alone in the middle of the night.
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